How to Deal with Uncertainty in a Relationship
Dig into those deeper-level thoughts that are spinning around in your unconscious mind
Is the uncertainty in your relationship coming from within you?
If so, it’s time to dig into those deeper-level thoughts that are spinning around in your unconscious mind. What might be some hidden thought processes and beliefs that are leaving you feeling in limbo?
Could it be that something learned in childhood could have you feeling uncertain about the future of the relationship or if this person is the right one for you?
Are you possibly uneasy and uncertain because intuitively, you believe and know this relationship is not healthy for you?
Or are you standing in your own way with your relationship attachment style? Perhaps you’re an avoidant style, and as the relationship has started to get more connected and close, you are starting to feel bored, smothered, or like the magic is gone.
Whatever the issue may be, if you are the one that is uncertain about the relationship, it’s time to dig in.
Explore if this relationship is good and healthy for you or not
Is your partner the one that is uncertain in the relationship?
If so, don’t panic. Generally, when someone panics over the threat of or the idea of losing their partner, they overreact, act out of character and do more harm than good to the wellbeing of the relationship.
If your partner is uncertain about the relationship, that is something that is out of your control. What you can control are your own thoughts, feelings, and actions.
Start with your thoughts. Stay away from telling yourself the worst-case scenario in your head. Remind yourself of your worth and that you are enough just the way that you are. Your only job is to continue to be the best and healthiest version of yourself and take good care of yourself.
You can evaluate if your partner is treating you with respect and kindness during their struggle with uncertainty.
If your partner is not treating you well, perhaps you would benefit from exploring if this relationship is good and healthy for you or not, instead of just waiting and giving your partner space.